You may have heard that one of the top reasons for a divorce is that couples have problems communicating in their marriages. This lack of communication breaks down the relationship and eventually causes the spouses to head to divorce court. They may not have battled over major issues like infidelity, but regardless, the relationship fell apart over time.

Why does communication matter so much? Here are a few reasons why poor communication skills are such a problem in any relationship:

  • You start to feel like you do not know one another. People change over time. Your spouse may no longer be the same person that you married. Many people change together, but couples that can’t communicate about their need for change often drift apart.
  • You run out of things to talk about and do together. One irony of poor communication is that it can make it nearly impossible to reconnect, even if you know it’s a problem. You don’t know how to talk anymore.
  • Your connection falters and then fails. You don’t feel close. You might not have a single issue to point to, but you no longer want to be with this person anymore. You may both feel the same way.
  • When things go badly, you look elsewhere for support. You vent to your friends when you lose your job, for instance. You discuss your concerns and your dreams with others. You and your spouse do not support and uplift each other, and you start to question why you’re even still married.

If this happens to you and you end up getting divorced, be sure you know what legal rights you have during the process.