When one person asks for a divorce, or at least brings it up for the first time, it’s common for the other spouse to wonder if they can save the marriage. They aren’t sure that divorce is inevitable yet. They think they can still fix things.

That may be true. Relationships go through ups and downs. However, it may already be past the point of no return. It could be that your spouse didn’t bring up divorce at all until they were 100% sure they were going to move forward with it no matter what. During that conversation, if they tell you the following things, you may have reached that point:

  • Even if you changed your behavior or actions, they would still want to end the marriage.
  • They have thought about a future with you and they just do not see it as a possibility.
  • They are already being unfaithful to the marriage and have moved on emotionally.
  • They feel apathetic about the whole thing. You may want to fix the relationship, but they honestly just do not care.
  • They have been letting resentment build for a long time. The request for a divorce didn’t come after a single event.
  • They don’t even want to try counseling because they know it won’t help. For some couples, they have already tried and it made no real difference.

It’s at this point that you need to make sure you focus properly. You need to take the time to really look into your rights and legal options to navigate the divorce, whether it was what you wanted or not.